So what's up with the whole relationship talks? Well, its almost midnight now and I have the links of both article pasted on my desktop since forever now so I figured I might as well write something on it.
I'm turning 22 in a few months now, so I might be eligible to talk on this right? Okay disclaimer, I am not even thinking about marriage, not even close. Chill people. Of course, the topic on marriage, relationship, spouses, sharing your whole life with another person has always been lingering around on the table during dinner and chill lepak session. Maybe my group of friends are just gatal or maybe it's just our age and some of the people that we know are in fact are getting married.
Personally, this whole marriage thing scares me. I mean till this point I am not sure if I ever want to settle down, have a family and all that stuff. Can I say, I dream of a wedding and not a marriage as a whole.Get me? To start, I still have plenty of bucket list yet to be scratch off. I mean travelling around Europe with your spouse seems like a romantic idea but I have been dreaming of a solo backpacking trip across Europe since like forever and I don't want to share it *tamak naww*. Get me? And I want to get a job, maybe pursue on Masters in something to be confirmed later and do fun adventurous and dangerous stuff. Well technically, I may not be doing all the bungee jumping and cliff jumping soon, but yeah how am I going to fit a husband into this plan? And anak? Okay let's not get that far.
Well, my point is I am not ready to settle down just yet. I have no hard feelings on those getting married in their early 20s, congratulations for you but I just don't see myself as one soon. I know early marriage is a way to go in Islam as it avoids zina and all the other bad stuffs but... To date, we have had few talks on the topic and I don't know, this is just so hard.Choosing an ice cream flavor is easier, and its fun too.
But again, maybe in few years, I'll change my mind. Who knows, after all I am the unpredictable Aishah.
Well, the article kinds say for itself. I don't really want to comment much on this but I figure since it's one of my favorite article thus far it might be useful here, for my future read.
Being in a relationship is a time where you learn things about yourself, knowing your limits and your boundaries. I for one, know that I have a bad temper and sometimes I have this 'F it' attitude where I F it everyone around me.After few arguments, I know that is something that I need to work on. And I also learned that I still have my insecurities, and although most people don't really see it upfront, he knows when and why. And it that particular time, I am just grateful to have such loyal listener who never fails to listen to all my rants and hopeless fantasy.
I guess, it does not matter how you deal with your relationship as long as you are comfortable with each other, that's it. Well, it does for me. I mean, who am I to advice you on love? I am no love guru, I have the least experience in love but this is what I can offer.
So that's about it on my relationship rants. Future self, when you read this applause that you have successfully become a love guru overnight. Thank you Huffington Post lols.
Until then, toodles.
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